Anger

What is anger?

Anger is a normal response to a threatening situation. But around one in ten people has real trouble controlling their anger. It therefore can be both a strong and troublesome emotion. It may increase your heart rate, increase your blood pressure, and cause an increase of certain chemical substances in your blood called ‘adrenaline’ and ‘noradrenaline’.

Why do we get angry?

Anger can become your main feeling when you want to stop a threatening behaviour by someone or something. We all feel it at one time or another in our lives. However wild and uncontrolled anger can have a very bad effect on your health and cause you to get into trouble with your families, your friends, or the police and others.

What are the sort of things that can make you feel angry?

  • being insulted or being under threat
  • being tired, hungry or in pain
  • feeling sexually frustrated
  • pre-menstrual syndrome
  • feeling ignored or not taken seriously
  • being affected by alcohol or drugs

Some ways of dealing with your anger:

  • recognising what makes you angry and avoiding them
  • recognising when you are getting angry
  • shouting and screaming in a private place
  • beating up your pillow
  • learning relaxation and meditation
  • taking time to cool down…sometimes ‘in the heat of the moment’ you might do something stupid in retaliation like text a horrid message….. try not to … you may regret it!
  • taking hard exercise
You can also….
  • Talk yourself calm by repeating a phrase or word to yourself like "take it easy" or "these feelings will soon pass".
  • Try and see the situation in a way that does not make you fell angry
  • Ask yourself ‘if your best friend was in the same situation what would you advise them to do?
  • Get further help - if you still get very angry in spite of doing the things above then it would be a good idea for you to get further help and the first place to go for this is your family doctor.
A technique called ‘Anger Management’ gets taught in some schools: it helps you know when your anger is getting out of control and how to catch yourself before you blow. This method can really help - why not ask your year head or school nurse if you want to find out more?
Anger is not always a bad thing but it can cause us, and other people, problems.